Quality of Life means you feel good every day. Not happy. Good. You feel good about yourself, about the day ahead of you, and about your capabilities. It doesn't mean you feel like a success. It doesn't mean you think you're better than everyone else. And it doesn't mean that one day soon everyone will see what a great person you are. It means you feel good that you're just an average Joe or Jane. Nothing special. Nothing wonderful. Unique, yes. But only in the sense that your body is different, your interests are different, and no one else has your thumbprint. Not unique in the sense of no one else is as good as you are. Or that you have talents that can transform the entire world. Not in the sense that you're "special." Nope. You're not special. You're average. And that's a good thing. It means that you're one of the herd. That you're just like the rest of us. That you're "part of" the community, not separate from it. Stop trying to be great, and just be average.
Cheryl Wenzel is a recovering narcissist. She's married and has twins.
In her endeavors to be "special," "unique," and "a success," she found herself experiencing failure after failure, until she realized that it really was okay to just be average. To this day, she continues to shrink down her inflated ego and allow her true self to guide her life.